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Hyram Ames, 9/23/23-12/03/06 - Accretions

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2006-12-05 01:26
Hyram Ames, 9/23/23-12/03/06
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Hyram Ames, 9/23/23-12/03/06
Originally uploaded by morganya.
He introduced me to Poe and to Calvin and Hobbes. When I read "The Raven" I can still hear his voice. We polished opals together in a small rock tumbler when I was young. In high school I helped him weed his iris beds and listened to him tell stories about growing up on a farm, teaching ballroom dance, and hunkering down in Italy in World War II. Though generally reticent, at times he'd wax eloquent about his collections of irises or tropical birds or historical books, or about any number of other things.

Though he has been having health problems for some time, his death came unexpectedly. On the way to the car after the family brunch last Saturday, he became dizzy and fell on his oxygen tank, cracking a rib. The rib pierced his spleen. He had lost half of his blood by the time the helicopter carried him to the hospital. His last few hours were lived for him by a machine, but as he didn't want to be kept alive in that way, he was allowed to pass away Sunday around noon.

He will be missed by his four sons and one daughter, and also by me, his eldest granddaughter, and his other grandchildren. Though it could be difficult to be close to him, I still regret that I drifted even further from him in the last few years, and I feel deeply for my dad, uncles, and aunt, who are really struggling with the loss. I'm glad I was able to see him last week at Thanksgiving, and I'm glad I'll be able to travel from California to join my family and play a piano piece for his funeral, since he enjoyed listening to me play.

Though everybody has heard it countless times before, I would like to share the poem that has been idling in my mind since I heard the news. For me it captures the stillness of death, and the potential for respite in it, nicely. Since my grandpa used to enjoy reading poetry to me, perhaps he would have appreciated the association.

Stopping by Woods on a Snowy Evening
by Robert Frost

Whose woods these are I think I know.
His house is in the village, though;
He will not see me stopping here
To watch his woods fill up with snow.

My little horse must think it queer
To stop without a farmhouse near
Between the woods and frozen lake
The darkest evening of the year.

He gives his harness bells a shake
To ask if there's some mistake.
The only other sound's the sweep
Of easy wind and downy flake.

The woods are lovely, dark and deep,
But I have promises to keep,
And miles to go before I sleep,
And miles to go before I sleep.
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guardmisfit
guardmisfit
2006-12-05 10:59 (UTC)
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*hugs* I'm sorry sweetie. It's hardest when it's unexpected. Thank you for reminding me not to let myself drift apart from the people I care about, even with good intentions.

That was nicely written, by the way. And it's cool that he danced, too.

*more hugs*
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jofish22
jofish22
2006-12-05 11:30 (UTC)
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Sorry to hear that. These things are always hard, and, as you say, at least you got to see him last week. And to go like that, rapidly, after a life of enthusiasm and interest, surrounded by children and grandchildren... It may well be the best way to go.
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dirtyindiewear
2006-12-05 14:43 (UTC)
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i'm so sorry for your loss, morgan...
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namazu
namazu
2006-12-05 15:49 (UTC)
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I'm sorry about your grandfather's passing, and this was a lovely tribute. It's good that you'll be able to share some time with your family to remember your grandfather.
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catachthonian
catachthonian
2006-12-05 16:29 (UTC)
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I'm really sorry to hear about your grandfather. Hang in there...
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chaosTheory
cyt
2006-12-05 17:05 (UTC)
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i'm sorry for your and your family's loss, especially during the holiday season. it is good that you had a chance to share thanksgiving all together. your writing is beautiful and shares wonderful things about your grandfather. thank you for sharing. i'm sending good thoughts your way...
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Benjamin C. Wiley Sittler: snowflake
bsittler
2006-12-05 17:17 (UTC)
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my condolences on your loss, and it sounds like his life is one you'll celebrate
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Jeff
composerjk
2006-12-05 17:34 (UTC)
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My sincerest condolences. *hugs* I had wanted to play the piano at my dad's funeral, but there was none to be found. I'm glad you're getting to do so and that you got to see him recently. *hugs*
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Tecato Gusano: beach
wealhtheow
2006-12-05 17:36 (UTC)
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I'm sorry for your loss, but so glad to hear you were with him at Thanksgiving.
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Olego
olego
2006-12-05 17:40 (UTC)
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I'm glad that you were able to see him at Thanksgiving, and that there are happy memories of him that you can summon even at such a sad time.

My condolenses on your loss, and I wish that you come to terms with it in a healing fashion.
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threadwalker
threadwalker
2006-12-05 19:42 (UTC)
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Glad you got to see him for Thanksgiving. Sounds like he inspired a lot of interests for you. Stories are wonderful things. Sadness for the loss and unexpectedness. I suppose it's reminders to be close while we can, enjoy while we can.

HUGS.
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KrysCat
kryscat
2006-12-05 21:56 (UTC)
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I'm sorry for your loss, but like everyone else, glad that you got to see him for Thanksgiving, and that you'll have a part in the services. *hugs*
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Beatrice M: Photoshoot
paisleychick
2006-12-05 23:25 (UTC)
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::HUGS::

Sorry to hear about this, but sounds like he had a good long life and that you played an important part.

::HUGS::
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Ping
zestyping
2006-12-06 00:27 (UTC)
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I'm thinking of you.

Thank you for the poem.
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Elaine
dancingyel
2006-12-06 01:00 (UTC)
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*hugs* so sorry to hear this, morgan. take care of yourself.
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(Anonymous)
2006-12-06 01:04 (UTC)
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As others have said, at least he was able to spend time with his family before passing away. I'm sure he would be grateful for the nice words and beautiful poem posted about him.
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Matthew Jones
stridera
2006-12-06 01:07 (UTC)
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I wish I could delete posts made accidently while not logged in. Sorry about that.
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tokyorose329
tokyorose329
2006-12-06 07:46 (UTC)
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I'm so sorry. Big hugs. I know you'll keep his memory close. Hold tight.
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Boots
bootsuu
2006-12-06 08:36 (UTC)
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My thoughts are with you, even though I'm far away.

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Paul, Evil Administrator: windy
eviladmin
2006-12-06 22:56 (UTC)
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I am very sorry to hear about your grandfather. Glad you got to spend Thanksgiving with him. That was a wonderful poem and I am sure the piano piece will be appreciated.
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joshua_314
2006-12-24 16:51 (UTC)
Condolences
Many condolences to you and your family, Morgan. A difficult time of year to lose someone--at least you had the blessing of seeing him Thanksgiving time.

My heart for your family.

~J
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(Anonymous)
2007-01-13 06:33 (UTC)
We gon ow?
Hello


G'night
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